You are engaged – now what? Enjoy the excitement. You are tempted to post your new status with a picture on Facebook however stop! Find out first “what is important to you” – remembering it is you both, together, that are making your future – not your friends, parents or you are individually.
Now as an official couple talk before you talk to anyone. Discuss and write down your game plan.
- Wedding date – when you want to get married. Sometimes the date may have to be altered due to availability of venue for the ceremony or reception.
- Vision/Theme – what you want as a couple to be on your day.
- Priorities (Top Five) List – both make a list on your own, then compare and come to a decision.
- Outstanding/memorable – moments from other weddings you attended or heard about that you thought were outstanding/memorable.
- Poorly planned/organized – moments from other weddings attended or heard about that you didn’t enjoy/don’t want at your wedding.
- Make memorable – what do you want your guests to remember after your wedding.
- Biggest fears/obstacles – when thinking of planning your wedding.
There are more elements than the questions above before telling everyone.
- When: year, month and date
- Where: setting
- What: Kind of ceremony and reception
- How: Budget
- Who: Guest count
Who to listen to?
People are excited for you and want you to share your plans.
Tip/Advice: When friends/family say you “must have” or “must do” it is their opinion, value, or taste. If not yours, a simple “thank you for your input” is all that needs to be said.
You are making the foundation for the rest of your life through learning together.
- Learn that communication is key
- Learning how compromise plays a large educational component.
- Learn how financing: budgets and your money handling styles play into your everyday life
- Learn what is important to you regarding values, skills, wants, dislikes in all aspects of your being
- Learn that you have someone else to support, bounce things off and LOVE.